Bouncing Back When Breaking Up: Build Resilience after a break up

Breaking up with someone is never easy. A break-up is a very difficult and emotional experience. It’s natural to feel a range of emotions in the aftermath, sadness, anger, and grief just to list a few. While it takes time to heal and move on, there are 7 steps you can follow to build resilience and bounce back from a break-up. You can get through it if you follow these 7 steps.

1. Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel sad, angry, or whatever else you’re feeling. Take some time to grieve the loss of the relationship and what it meant. It’s important to acknowledge and process your emotions, rather than trying to suppress or ignore them.l, hoping they will go away. When we deal with our emotions in the right way we build resilience.
2. Prioritise self-care: Take care of yourself. Make sure to prioritise self-care during this time. Get enough sleep, eating well, and exercise. Along with this find ways to relax and de-stress – take up a healthy hobby. Give yourself permission to take some time for yourself, it’s ok. Do (healthy) things that bring you joy and comfort. Taking care of ourselves enables us to rely on our stores of resilience to get through things. Self-care is the way to build resilience.
3. Seek (and accept) support. talk to a friend or family member about your feelings, or to seek support from a therapist or counsellor. It really can be helpful. It’s important to have someone to confide in, another person who can offer you encouragement and can understand you. To build resilience also means to ask for and accept help.
4. Be grateful and practice gratitude. Try to focus on the things in your life that you’re grateful for. Why? Because after a break up It can be easy to focus on what you’ve lost, and forget about what you have. This can help change your perspective in things, and you will end up having a growth mindset. Practising gratitude will give you a sense of hope and positivity.
5. Find healthy ways to cope. This could mean finding new hobbies or activities (as mentioned in point 2), or finding ways to express yourself creatively, such as writing that book you have always wanted to. It’s important to find healthy ways to cope with your emotions and move forward. Avoid turning to unhealthy hobbies or coping mechanisms, like going out and engaging in excessive alcohol consumption or overeating to deal with how you feel. This never helps and sets down bad patterns for the future.
6. Set boundaries. After a break-up, it can be tempting to try to maintain a connection with your ex or to try to “win them back.” However, it’s important to set boundaries and respect your own needs. This might mean unfollowing them on social media or taking a break from communication for a while.
7. Take it one day at a time. Don’t rush to get over things. Building resilience after a break-up takes time, Be patient with yourself, it’s important. Focus on taking things one day at a time. Find small ways to feel good about life and yourself (this goes well with point four). Again, remember, it’s okay to take breaks, practice self-care and allow and give yourself time to heal.

As we started with, breaking up with someone is never easy, but it’s a chance to learn and grow. By taking care of yourself and finding healthy ways to cope, you can build resilience and move forward in a positive way to a bright future. You can get through it, and you will.