Listen to her
Listening is a skill that can be learned, and it’s one of the best gifts you can give your partner. If you’re new to this, consider the following tips:
Listen without interrupting. Let her finish what she has to say before responding. Don’t try to solve her problems, but just listen with your full attention on her words and feelings.
Listen with sincerity. When a woman shares something personal with you, your response shouldn’t be based on whether or not you agree or disagree—instead just acknowledge what she said and how it makes her feel, and let her know that she was heard.
Pay attention to your body language. Folded arms and crossed legs may signal disinterest even if that’s not how you feel inside—unconsciously sending mixed signals will only confuse things further; make sure your body language matches the openness of your heart!
Listen with your eyes as well as ears—if you’re zoning out during an important conversation, chances are she’ll notice it in the way you’re looking at (or not looking at) her!
Be thoughtful.
Be thoughtful. It’s the little things that count.
Be kind. When you do something nice for her, don’t expect anything in return—just be considerate and do things out of kindness, rather than something you think might get you what you want in the bedroom or otherwise.
Be attentive to her needs. If she has a busy day coming up, try to help out with household chores so that she can focus on work.
Surprise her with an unplanned date night or a romantic picnic on the beach—whenever possible, take advantage of opportunities to surprise and delight your partner with romantic gestures and dates (no matter how spontaneous).
Show affection through touch: hold hands with your partner as often as possible; give her hugs when she needs them most; play footsie under the dinner table at restaurants; kiss when greeting friends for dinner parties or attending events together; give each other massages after long days at work; cuddle up on couch together while watching movies together in bed before bedtime (you’ll both sleep more soundly!).
Be generous
Generosity is a quality that women look for in men. Generosity makes someone feel appreciated and special, so it’s no surprise that women want to be with a generous man. However, generosity doesn’t have to be expensive. A simple gift can go a long way in making her feel special. You can also show your generosity by giving her your undivided attention when she needs someone to talk to or listen to her troubles.
You might also consider being an organ donor or volunteering at a local soup kitchen or homeless shelter, as these acts of kindness toward others can help make you more attractive to potential partners as well as create opportunities for you to meet new people and form connections!
Let her talk, don’t interrupt
Let her talk. This is perhaps the simplest piece of advice that people can give to men who are trying to get better at communication. Women are, generally speaking, very good at talking. They know all the best words and how to use them effectively in a conversation. (The same cannot be said for you, or most other men.) Empathize with what she is saying and understand that she is probably right—even if she’s wrong about some things.
Women like talking, it’s what they do best, so just let them do it. Give her the space to talk; don’t interrupt her mid-way through a sentence because you feel like you have something important to add. You don’t have anything important to add! If you think about it for more than two seconds you’ll realize that what you want to say isn’t really worth saying anyway.
Value your relationship over your career.
Your career is not more important than your partner. This may seem obvious to some, but it’s worth pointing out: work is work and relationships are personal. If you value your career over your relationship, then make sure you tell her before she marries you or has children with you because most women do not feel that way.
In reality, most women still want the relationship to take priority over their careers when it comes to their lives overall. They would rather have a great marriage than a successful job, which means they probably want the same thing for you too.
Don’t ignore her when she’s upset
When a woman is upset, she doesn’t need you to fix the problem. She needs you to listen and be there for her. Make sure she knows that you care about her and value what she’s saying by maintaining eye contact, using your words sparingly, and asking questions about her feelings. You’ll know that she’s made progress toward feeling better when she stops talking or pauses for a long time before responding. If this happens, it means that it’s safe to speak again.
If your partner is seething with anger, responding non-judgmentally will help resolve the issue more quickly than if you try to argue with her or get defensive yourself. Anger often comes from disappointment or frustration with yourself or others, so it may help to think of your partner’s anger as pain manifested in a different form—in other words, don’t take it personally! Once she has calmed down enough to discuss the situation reasonably, share your own perspective on what happened in an even-tempered way using “I” statements (e.g., I felt confused when…).
• Make her feel as if she’s always number one in your life.
• Make her feel as if she’s always number one in your life.
• Make her feel valued.
• Make her feel special.
Be 100 percent committed to the relationship. More than just an “idea,” it has to be a fact and a way of life for you both.
If you want to make your woman happy, do nice things for her, like giving her flowers or making breakfast in bed. But you can also make your girlfriend or wife happy by having conversations that she enjoys, like talking about music and art or sharing secrets so she feels more connected with you. You should also keep up with little things that bother her, like throwing out old papers or putting the food on the right shelves in the fridge. Additionally, try to be thoughtful by remembering details about what’s important to her and then surprising her with those things, whether it’s flowers for no reason or helping with chores without being asked!
Surprises are good!
We all know the drill: birthdays, anniversaries, holidays. And sometimes we’re not super excited about them. We feel like we have to come up with something unique and thoughtful on top of everything else we’ve got going on.
But surprises are good! Surprises show he’s thinking of you beyond the routine. They can be romantic gestures, or something just for fun—either way, they’re a great opportunity to connect. (And if you’re looking for ideas, you’ve definitely come to the right place.)
Of course, the process of coming up with a surprise can feel challenging in itself. But don’t worry! There are plenty of options that are easy enough to pull off but still make a big impact.
The key is creativity and personalization—and maybe a little bit of elbow grease—which means surprises don’t have to be expensive or complicated to be special and meaningful.
Have a positive outlook on life.
Men, have a positive outlook on life. This is a big one. If you’re a glass half-empty kind of guy, it’s time to get rid of that attitude. There are so many benefits to being optimistic, like having better health and success in your career. Another important reason to be more optimistic: women love happy guys! A recent survey found that 77% of women said they wanted to date someone with an “upbeat” approach to life. So don’t be the grumpy guy who always complains about his day at work or things he doesn’t like about the world—be the positive guy that makes her smile every time you see each other.
A great way to practice being more upbeat and optimistic is by practicing gratitude every day for 30 days in a row. It’s really simple: just write down three things you’re grateful for each night before you go to bed and read them out loud as soon as you wake up in the morning. Studies show this can help you reprogram your brain if done consistently for long enough and make it easier for you find the good in every situation!
Try these things to make the most important woman in your life feel valued and appreciated!
• Be generous.
• Surprises are good.
• Be thoughtful.
• Value your relationship over your career.
• Don’t ignore her when she’s upset.
• Make her feel as if she’s always number one in your life.
• Have a positive outlook on life. This is the most important rule of all! If you are happy, she will be, too!
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